Truth is never separate from life because life is the truth itself. And in many ways, the reason we rarely find the truth is because we set our sights far and wide instead of within.
Like dreams. They are within. That place of fantasy we considered nothing is actually a place where we can find important truths – about life and about our own self.
So, here are a few things I learned from reading Carl Jung and Jesamine Mello…
#1 – That there is an intelligence within us sharing our space but unknown to us
“In each of us is an ‘another’ whom we do not know. He speaks to us in dreams and tells us how differently he sees us from the way we see ourselves.” ~C. G. Jung~
According to Jung, our body/mind functions pretty much like a TV set with open doors and windows receiving “signals” from the known and the unknown. And those “signals” affect our very lives. Therefore, the adage “If there is a will, there is a way” is but a superstitious belief invented by the ego of the modern man. No man is a master of his own house.
Jung had a map showing the psyche with its various facets: persona, ego, shadow (animus or anima), personal and collective unconscious, archetype and the self. Now, when I looked at the image of that map, what flashed in my mind was Jiddu Krishnamurti’s words describing his first experience of touching the most sacred. The day he attained enlightenment. He was part of everything. He was everything.
What Jung called the personal and collective unconscious are, to me, the embodiment of “all are one, one is all” – the embodiment of both the past and the future intermingling with our very present lives that reminded me of something Alan Watts mentioned in relation to his former wife, Eleanor.
Jung, a man of science. Krishnamurti, a mystic. Watts, a spiritual teacher and academe. Different personalities singing the same song. Life and the world are not separate. They are one single unit of manifestation where everyone and everything are connected in some cosmic mysterious thread that no one can explain. Not the religion. Not science. Not the academy. And by Jove, especially not the government. No one.
Life will always be the narrow passage between Scylla and Charybdis that we will have to tread with care neither leaning too much towards mysticism nor towards rationalism. Either way has its own peril. Follow the path of Krishnamurti (i.e., no path and you are on your own). He said, do not accept any authority to be your truth. Investigate. Inquire. Look. Deeply. And do it with every vigor and courage that you own. Read the book that is called “I” – and the book includes both our waking and sleeping hours.
#2 – That all dreams have meaning and carry useful and practical insights
Dreams, I found out, are more often than not, a personalized “book review” – except that the book happens to be the dreamer. They represent our real shadow work. They are brutally honest yet aim to serve our highest good in our evolution as a human being. Either it points us to a good or bad trait, but, always, it hints at the need to change. A change of lens of perception that will very well save us from putting ourselves in either further or future troubles.
For example, the image of a couple I knew only from social media talking inaudibly, the image of myself turning off the strong running water from a faucet, the image of yellow plastic covering getting wet from the splash of running water, and several other images pointed out to the plasticity of human emotions. In my case, I took it to mean that emotions aren’t stable and that it is susceptible to the changes in the environment – therefore, the dream was telling me to be cautious and to apply logic.
#3 – That dreams can be used in order to have a healthy well-being mentally, emotionally, energetically
I mentioned that there was something in the dreams I had that convey a sense of urgency to pay attention NOW. Not tomorrow but today. NOW. I tried to ignore them to no avail. It simply won’t let me rest. So, I finally relented and moved my ass and got to work.
I understood the “why” of it by reading Jung. He said that the dream of a person entering puberty will be different from the dream of a person entering middle age. Ding!
I am in my middle age which, apparently, means there are lessons that may have turned overdue. Lessons I should have learned a long time ago but failed to do due to my conditioning, habitual patterns and the fact that humans mostly operate without full awareness.
Dream is also a path to enlightenment (albeit it is like communicating with our great-great-great-great ancestor and we have to learn the language of the primitive mind) – but, just like any spirituality path, it requires us to put in the effort, it requires us to take responsibility for our own lives. Something many people will find unpalatable.
Lady Emily Lutyens had this to say why the early followers of Krishnamurti were disappointed when he brutally told them he is not the Messiah of the East that they hoped him to be and that there is no such thing as savior:
“How strange it seems that for 17years, we have expected a world teacher and now when he speaks we are hurt or angry. He is making us do our own works and that’s the last thing we expected of him.”
Deciphering dreams is hard work. And when we finally deciphered it, we will find out that just like Socrates’s daimonion, it provides warnings and gives us the bird’s eye-view of our personhood BUT it will not tell us what to do.
Only the dreamer can properly interpret his or her own dreams largely because the symbols we see in the dreamscape are from the materials stored in our own individual memories affected by our own culture except for the archetypes. An analyst like Jesamine Mello can help greatly because of her familiarity with the symbols and Jungian lexicon and method; BUT, the dreamer will still have to provide the necessary input HONESTLY and with all INTEGRITY. Otherwise, you will pay the analyst for nothing. Jung also pointed to the importance of personality match between the analyst and the dreamer. Ergo, if you are an introvert, consult with an introvert or else, you will have the same problem that Jung had with Sigmund Freud.
#4 – That the dream is like a guru – it is not the moon, rather it is the finger that points to the moon
As I said, dreams will not provide us the solution to our problems. It lies in our hands to explore the solutions needed to be effected – the corrective measures that we need to undertake in order to improve our overall well-being.
Do not be discouraged. Dream is not a one-way communication. We can communicate back with whatever inner intelligence that is in us. First, decipher the meaning of the dream. If not understood, ask for clearer or simpler symbols. Do this by incubating the dream – putting yourself back to the dreamed scene and pose your questions. If you are as dumb as I am, you will have to do this repeatedly.
Alternatively, you can apply Jung’s idea of “dreaming the dream on” – meaning, that the dreamer will try to imagine how the scene in the dream will progress if he or she will allow it.
Once you feel that you arrive at a plausible interpretation, think of the solutions you will do to address the problem. Lay out both your interpretation and planned solution either while incubating the dream or prior to your meditation. Then test the theory. Implement the action and be mindful of any positive or negative change that unfolds in your dreamscape. That will serve as your gauge or clue to know if you are in the right direction or not.
#5 – Dreams, let me repeat, are brutally honest – it is what it is. It is futile to justify our “flaw” regardless if such flaw is actually positive in our waking life. However, that inner intelligence is reasonable and fair. It accepts the solution that we can realistically implement. It accepts the limit we set – it accepts where we draw the line of submission.
Just a little caution. Do NOT trash the dream. You will pay for it, something I learned the hard way. No, it is NOT vindictive at all. But it will force you to wake up – like a drill sergeant. Really, really wake up.
I made the mistake of being stubbornly naughty and haughty when my view on men and marriage/relationship was put under review. My ego self naively believed that I am only being pragmatic towards men, relationship, marriage and family based on my own experience – and that it is valid. My dream self revealed that what I thought to be a realist’s perspective actually conceals a certain degree of prejudice. Prejudice. For a person who vows to be open-minded, that is quite a blow.
So, upon waking up, I laughed at that dream. I taunted – thinking: “WTF, guys, this is my life, and I will live it my way.” (Why? Because I am a pixie and a child! That is why.)
What happened next was that I went back to sleep and found myself dreaming a long dream that ended up with myself flat on the ground, face sideways, up close and personal with the bottom of a bulldozer – its heavy metal wheel about to make a nice example of a roadkill. I remembered uttering: “Lord, not this way.”
And I woke up. That night I vowed I would reconsider and change my view.
Look, the dream will not kill me in my sleep. It was merely delivering the point of why it is of great importance that I change my ways.
Again, I am in my middle age. At this point in my life, I still have to learn how to accept and receive love and care from another person – regardless if that person is of my blood or not. The dream is telling me that I cannot cling tightly to my independence and freedom. I am getting old – and somewhere down the road, I will have no choice but to depend on other people. Something I am very, very, very afraid of. That dependence is akin to cutting off my wings. But life is a cycle – and aging is inevitable. The dream is simply saying it is far better to start adjusting now than later.
That is the long overdue lesson that out of my sheer stubbornness and ignorance, I have been refusing to either honor or follow.
#6 – That we cannot manipulate nor summon that inner intelligence to do things our way contrary to the mainstream information we read and hear.
Dreams are mainly book reviews. Warnings. Shadow works. And there are also dreams that point at what is to come. But no, it will not show you or teach you how to win the lottery. If it does, then many psychics would have become billionaires. That is wishful thinking.
Affirmation and the law of attraction will only be effective if we follow our inner guide. And by following, we have to leave our ego outside the door and allow ourselves to be led into the path of our individuation or self-integration. In short, the path of enlightenment – the path of making the unconscious conscious in order for us to find and see life’s meaning.
#7 – Dreams and dream interpretation require PATIENCE, HONESTY, INTEGRITY and the WILLINGNESS to CHANGE.
Sporadically in her articles, Jesamine Mello will tell you over and over again that shit and gold are an eternal twin.
She should have added that it works vice versa. In the midst of gold and glitters, the shit may be hidden beneath. Lol!
Again, just be a sport. And flow with it, merrily. The humility to accept our flaw will not cause us indigestion or heart attack. In reality, that humility will give us vigor knowing that it is life that carries us, not the other way around. And by that, our feet seemed to be lighter – even with subtle wings.
One last word about Jesamine Mello: She repetitively walks the reader through in her articles – patiently explaining how to interpret a dream by using dream examples. The dream example per se, again, is of no use to you. It is only useful to the dreamer. However, the method she used and explained exhaustively in breaking down the details of the dream will be of great help. Simply pay attention and test it in your own dream.
Be resourceful. Research whatever is lacking. Don’t ask her to do the rest of the work for you if you are not willing to pay. She is working for her diploma. Sweat and blood. Let us respect that.
Let me say…
We should not read for the sake of reading. And we should not read at all if our minds are already full. Read only when you can allow yourself to be empty and receptive of the possibility that the person or book or whatever may have new insight or wisdom to offer.
If you think you are already wise and a master of your fate, do not waste your time reading or arguing. Go on your way.
On the other hand, if you are ready to allow space for new learnings, let this serve as a caution: Never make anybody an authority in your views relative to life and truth for that is a sure way of creating conflict that will eventually drive you to doubt and fail. Make your own convictions – and the only way to do that is to listen to the messenger but test it – always, always, test it and prove it to yourself.
Of course, by saying that, I take it to mean that you will apply logic, yes? For example, if someone tells you that jumping off the cliff will gain you enlightenment, I trust that before you believe that person, you will first ask for actual demonstration (from that person).
Testing it on yourself, therefore, comes with precaution: use your common sense.
In summary, this is what I think. The Jungian principles and methods are the long, circuitous road to spirituality and enlightenment. And I am NOT saying this without profound admiration. Jung was a brilliant thinker – he may have been a shaman or a sage in his past life (if you subscribe to such philosophy). Reading excerpts from his “The Red Book,” he reminded me of Don Juan Matus, the Yaqui Indian sorcerer who was the subject of a book written by Carlos Castañeda as his Master’s Thesis in UCLA School of Anthropology.
But, here I draw my line…
If I am in my 20s, I would probably go by his way. Yet, I am already in my midlife and so I prefer to go by the direct path of no path. The shortcut to truth. That is to say that instead of getting myself mired in the labyrinth of the shadow and the unconscious (imagine allowing the mind to work all the time and not letting it rest because that is what will happen if we encourage dreaming to go on and on), I choose to simply connect with that unchanging peace within. Regardless if I am in dreaming or waking mode, both are part of the Maya – both are illusion. And the fact remains that we are still responsible for our own life.
That is where I stand. And that I communicated with the in-dwelling intelligence that lives in my soul and I was rewarded with a sight of a deep lake that is so quiet that nothing stirs in it. Oh, it does not mean I will not listen to the wisdom of the dream – I did, I do and still listen. I just do not allow myself to get so pulled in. Why?
Two simple reasons…
#1 The same rationale why I would not dabble with stuff like Ayahuasca or DMT or LSD. I want to make do with whatever available resources without introducing external mitigating agents into my body/mind for the sake of experiencing another dimension. Not even for the sake of enlightenment. I want it to unfold the way it should unfold.
#2 I firmly believe that both the conscious and unconscious emanate from the That Which Is Most Sacred. The Ground of Being. “Them” and “us” are just one. They are both our past and our future. All handiwork of the Almighty. And I have this inkling that the in-dwelling beings or guides or the general unconscious are pretty much in the same boat as we do. That means that they, too, are just as clueless as we are and thus, have no idea of where life begins and ends. “Them” and “us” are both caught in the web of Maya.
Where am I so far?
I am not certain but the last time I saw my Animus in the dreamscape, we seemed to be nearing getting along. I think that will be the case for as long as I sustain the corrective measures I commit to do. Jesamine Mello said that once the dreamer successfully integrated and balanced his or her masculine and feminine energies, that would be the time that he or she meets the soulmate. Did it disappoint you to know that the soulmate you are looking for is actually within you? Lol!
And that, my lovelies, is like finally coming home and becoming LOVE.